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Usually, military couples expect deployment to put a strain on their marriage. What surprises many couples is that pre-deployment is often much harder on a relationship. Cultivate a strong foundation during this time with these resources.
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The OXYGEN Assessment will help you and your partner discover your individual personality types, personal motivators, areas of satisfaction within your relationship, and areas that can use more love and attention.
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OXYGEN 365 VIDEOS
Love Sense: Revolutionary New Science of Emotional Bonding
Dr. Sue Johnson, the bestselling author of Hold Me Tight, presents a revolutionary new understanding of why and how we love, based on cutting-edge research. Every day, we hear of relationships failing and questions of whether humans are meant to be monogamous. Love Sense presents new scientific evidence that tells us that humans are meant to mate for life. Dr. Johnson explains that romantic love is an attachment bond, just like that between mother and child, and shows us how to develop our “love sense”–our ability to develop long-lasting relationships.
Cherish: The One Word That Changes Everything In Marriage
Gary Thomas, author of Cherish: The One Word that Changes Everything in Marriage, discusses the art of cherishing your spouse. Dive deeper into answering the questions: How is loving different from cherishing? How can you cherish your spouse? What does it mean to showcase your spouse? How can you authentically cherish your spouse despite his/her shortcomings? How can you steer clear of cultivating contempt?
Nine Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage
Sheila Wray Gregoire, author of 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage, discusses how to be in charge of your own happiness in your marriage. Gregoire is a syndicated columnist, speaker, and author of several books. In this video, we dive deeper into answering questions like: How can you adopt the philosophy that “my husband can’t make me mad”? Is it my husband’s job to make me happy? How can you accept your husband as he is? What is the difference between a peace-keeper and a peace-maker? How can you learn to be more concerned with unity than being right?
The Argument-Free Marriage
Fawn Weaver—founder of “The Happy Wives Club” blog and author of The Argument-Free Marriage—discusses how every couple can lay the groundwork to create a marriage free from arguments. Every couple has certain topics that are triggers for an argument. In those moments right before an argument, the key is to pause and realize that you and your spouse are not speaking from a place of vulnerability and, therefore, are no longer communicating effectively. Instead, pause, step back, and investigate the “original emotion,” or the true emotion that is driving the argument and work forward from there. When both spouses can speak from a place of vulnerability, an argument-free marriage is possible.
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Affair-Proofing Your Marriage
You may be thinking, There’s no way that would happen to our marriage. However, the possibility of infidelity in your marriage is, unfortunately, always present. (No matter how in love, secure or careful you both are.) While there’s no guarantee for anything in life, there are tangible steps you can take to create an infidelity-resistant relationship!
Dead Bedroom
Sex (or the lack thereof) is an issue in most marriages, but we rarely talk about it. Even though it’s easy to do (hey-o), it’s also pretty complicated. Human sexuality is more than just biological, it’s also a mix of complex relationship dynamics and psychological biases. Throw in any past trauma or baggage and you’ve got a recipe for complication. Dead Bedroom is a journey through each room in your home and how it contributes to your sex life.
Love Notes Series
Love Notes is a collection of valuable relationship insights from interviews with the leading relationship experts and Noel Meador, host of The OXYGEN Show. Special guests have included Drs. John and Julie Gottman, Fawn Weaver, Jeff and Cheryl Scruggs, Scott Haltzman, and many more. Topics covered: Communication, Family, Health & Wellness, Intimacy & Infidelity
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Deeper
ReVITALize Your Marriage
Heart to Heart
MARRIAGE COURSES
After I Do: The Complete Guide to Newlywed Life
Maximize Your Marriage
Wherever your marriage is today, that’s where Maximize Your Marriage starts your next chapter. In every great story, the characters face obstacles. The story of your marriage is no different. But now you’ll get the tools you need to help you overcome the obstacles. Our relationship experts will guide you and your spouse through 7 key concepts that will help turn your story around or make sure it stays headed in the right direction.
Understand Your Spouse & Deepen Your Relationship
Discover Deeper Intimacy in Your Marriage
In order to have a deeper intimacy in your marriage, you need practical skills and simple strategies to eliminate the barriers that keep you stuck in a sexless rut. Discover Deeper Intimacy in Your Marriage is a 5-part online course that is designed to guide you and your spouse on a transformational journey to deepen your emotional and physical connection! If you want to see a change in your marriage, start with these key 5 moves that will jumpstart your sex drive and keep that engine running smoothly! Are you ready to reignite those sparks?
DATE NIGHTS
LET’S GET PHYSICAL!
YOU HAD ME AT CHOCOLATE
This fun, free virtual date night will satisfy your chocolate craving… and get you in the mood for love! Together, you’ll make a delicate, chocolate treat with the guidance of French Chocolatier, Jerome Savin and First Things First’s Will and Caroline Henry.
SWEET & SAVORY MARRIAGE | WRAPPED UP IN YOU
Get wrapped up in your spouse during this virtual date night! Together, you’ll create authentic tortillas from scratch and wrap them around all the yummy fillings you want. Chef Jeff Pennypacker from The Sweet and Savory Classroom will guide you through this culinary experience, and our FTF team will give you the key ingredients to help your marriage withstand the heat both in and out of the kitchen.
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SALSA WITH ME, SWEETHEART!
Dance like no one is watching with your spouse! During Salsa with Me, Sweetheart you and your honey will learn how to salsa together in the comfort of your own home. Join couple Martin and Nancy Smith as they guide you through the salsa step-by-step. Throughout the video, an FTF facilitator will help you discover the parallels between the salsa and your own marriage dance. You’ll end your date with a new way to groove and new tools you can use to keep your marriage strong for a lifetime.
PAINT, PLAY, PASSION!
Tired of doing the same old thing for date night? Renew the passion in your marriage by doing something different together! Paint, Play, Passion is a virtual date night that will guide you and your spouse to create a beautiful masterpiece together in the comfort of your own home. Artist Jacqueline Estes will give you step-by-step instructions to create your own individual paintings, but when the night is over, your paintings will come together to form one united image! Plus, an FTF facilitator will provide you with tools and insights you can use to keep the passion and play alive long after the night ends.
MERENGUE THROUGH MARRIAGE
Think you have two left feet? That shouldn’t keep you from dancing! Sometimes, we have to learn how to step in sync with our partner before we really feel the rhythm and enjoy the dance. And that’s what this date night is all about! Join professional dance instructors, Martin and Nancy Smith, as they guide you through the moves of Merengue, simultaneously guiding you through some moves for your marriage, as well! Throughout this video, Reggie Madison, FTF Programs Director, gives you and your honey some time to talk about the steps you’re learning and how you can apply them to your own relationship. By the end of the night, you’ll know a little more about dance and A LOT more about your spouse, so you can make it through the hard times in marriage and come out even stronger on the other side!
SWEET & SAVORY MARRIAGE
Tired of cooking the same old things in your kitchen? Need a little passionate boost in your marriage? Turn up the heat and try something new with Chef Jeff Pennypacker from The Sweet and Savory Classroom during this FREE LIVE Virtual Date Night, Sweet and Savory Marriage! You and your spouse will be guided through the process of making crepes in the comfort of your own kitchen. The cool thing about crepes is you can fill them with different flavors and make the overall taste sweet or savory, whatever you desire. An FTF facilitator will give you tools and insights to increase your connection with your spouse and keep the flame of passion burning for years to come.
YOU MAKE MY DREAMS COME TRUE
You’ve probably heard it said that “opposites attract,” which can make marriage a fun challenge to tackle. The truth is, differences in your marriage, no matter how small, can actually benefit you, your spouse and your relationship as a whole! You’ll get an inside look at how to those differences to your advantage. We’ll guide you and your spouse through a variety of FUN and simple activities to do in the comfort of your own home that’ll help you gain a few new tools to strengthen your marriage for a lifetime!
COME A LITTLE CLOSER, BABY
Are you so good at social distancing that you’re even feeling a little distant from your spouse? There’s nothing like a fun-filled, romantic date night to bring the two of you a little closer. This video will guide you through simple games and activities in the comfort of your own home. Deepen your relationship and strengthen your marriage for years to come!
TALK TO ME… LIKE LOVERS DO
You’re in the same house as your spouse… but somehow it seems you talk less. After all, what is there to talk about when you’re spending every waking minute together? Or maybe, when you do talk, it’s kind of tense and stressful. In this video, you’ll be guided through playful activities that will open the door of communication and give you some tools to stay on the same page with your spouse long after the “shelter in place” order is gone.
LET’S LAUGH, LOVE
You’re stuck at home day after day, night after night. Life is pretty mundane at the moment. And, scheduling a date night means finding another movie or binge-watching another show you both agree on… until now! In this video, you’ll be guided through some playful activities you can do together and give you the tools you need to keep the laughter alive through all of the COVID-19 chaos!
How to Deal with a Spouse Who Can’t Handle Conflict
Does this describe anyone you know? Avoids conflict at all costs. Hates when someone is mad at them. Shuts down when emotions get intense. I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to describe your spouse. I was describing myself. I’m the spouse who can’t handle conflict at times. Though I sometimes justify the behavior, I know it’s…
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